How busy are We?
(On
Being Charlie Ravioli http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2002/09/30/bumping-into-mr-ravioli)
Adam Gopnik, a writer for the
New Yorker, had a problem.
Her imaginary friend was named Charlie
Ravioli. Like any good New York-based imaginary friend, he lived in an apartment “on Madison and
Lexington”, dined on grilled chicken, fruit, and water (bottled of course).
The cause for concern was the nature
of the interactions with this imaginary friend. Well, let me show you what
I mean.
Olivia would hold her toy cell
phone up to her ear, and talk into it: “Ravioli? It’s Olivia…It’s Olivia. Come
and play? O.K. Call me. Bye.” Then she would snap the phone shut, and shake her
head.
“I always get his machine.”
Or “Did you speak to Ravioli
today.”
“No. He was busy working.”
On a good day, she might “bump
into” her imaginary friend and they would go to a cafe.
Then the interaction became more
intense.
She would be alone talking on
her toy phone, and her parents would ask “Who are you talking to?”
“Laurie,” she said, “We’re
talking about Ravioli.”
Or she would say, “I talked to
Laurie today, and she says Ravioli is busy.”
Or even more alarming, she would
say, “Laurie, tell Ravioli I’m calling!”
Upon further questioning about
who, exactly, was Laurie. Olivia shook her head. “She works for Ravioli.”
Laurie was the imaginary person
who answered Ravioli’s phone and said that unfortunately Mr. Ravioli was in a
meeting. “Laurie says Ravioli is too busy to play,” Olivia announced sadly one
morning. Things seemed to deteriorate further in the relationship with the
imaginary friend; now Ravioli was even too busy even to say he was too busy.
What I found remarkable isn’t
that Ravioli is imaginary, but that he’s such a busy imaginary
friend—too busy, most days, to play, always jumping into a cab or letting his
answering machine pick up, or even have his imaginary secretary tell Olivia
that he’s too busy to play.
The question I have isn’t about Olivia’s behavior, nor about
the dynamics of this upwardly mobile family, but about Charlie Ravioli himself.
What was Charlie Ravioli thinking? How can he be too busy
for the one being, his own creator, whose very imagination was responsible for
his utter existence?
How can dwelling in Sukkot help to shift our priorities or change our actions?
If we understand Sukkot to be the other side of the coin of
the Yamim Noraim, the pieces all fall into place. Rosh Hashanah is the
coronation of the King, to fully realize and accept the authority of Hashem in
our lives. During the first part of the month of Tishrei we work on this
through the midah of yirah, approaching Hashem through a sense of reverence.
On Sukkot, we do the same, this time through ahavah, love of
Hashem. More specifically, Sukkot is the time when we can turn the Kingship of
Hashem from mere abstraction to a reality.
(http://mussaryoellax.blogspot.co.il/2011/10/sukkot-netivot-shalom-on-4-species.html )
(http://mussaryoellax.blogspot.co.il/2011/10/sukkot-netivot-shalom-on-4-species.html )
Why honor the Clouds of Glory?
Why do we commemorate the Clouds of Glory more than any the
other miracle that accompanied the Jewish People through the desert? Why don't
we commemorate the spring that poured forth from a rock, or the Manna -- the
heavenly food that rained upon us in the desert?
G‑d not only provided the Clouds of Glory to protect us from
the sun, but surely the forty years of manna and the wandering well would rate
equally with the cloud. Yet we have no festivals commemorating those miracles!
The clouds are a celebration for Hashem as well as us. G‑d's
greatest victory was the fact that Israel had recovered from the stain on its
soul from the episode of the Golden Calf. This had first appeared to give the
angels a chance to confront G‑d and remind Him that they had actually voted against
the creation of man. The rehabilitation process was completed right after Yom
Kippur, when G‑d
saw fit to forgive Israel.
The Sukkot festival, then, is first and foremost a
"festival for G‑d", with Israel not having contributed any input to
merit this festival. We rejoice that G‑d is happy and has seen His judgment
proven right.
Why Do We Observe Sukkot at The Harvest Time?
The Sukkah has further significance. The Torah writes
(Devarim 16:13):
You shall observe the Feast of Sukkos seven days,
after you have gathered in your grain and your wine.
חַג הַסֻּכֹּת תַּעֲשֶׂה לְךָ שִׁבְעַת יָמִים בְּאָסְפְּךָ מִגָּרְנְךָ
וּמִיִּקְבֶךָ
Why do we observe Sukkot at this harvest time?
The Rashbam explains that the key to the answer is from another
reason the Torah gives for celebrating Sukkot (Vayikra 23:43):
That your generations may know that I made the
people of Israel to dwell in booths, when I brought them out of the land of
Egypt.
לְמַעַן יֵדְעוּ דֹרֹתֵיכֶם כִּי בַסֻּכּוֹת הוֹשַׁבְתִּי אֶת בְּנֵי
יִשְׂרָאֵל בְּהוֹצִיאִי אוֹתָם מֵאֶרֶץ מִצְרָיִם אֲנִי ה' א-לקיכם
When we sit in the
Sukkah, the Torah tells us, we should remember how G-d provided shelter for the
nation of Israel for 40 years after they left Egypt. The nation had no land to
call their own. They had to wander and be sheltered by G-d. When we harvest our
crops, we may tend to lose sight of how lucky we are that G-d provided for us.
The Torah warns us of a danger.
The Rashbam is saying: The sukkah is a lesson in humility;
it comes to prevent a swelled head. G-d commanded us to sit in the sukkah
precisely at the harvest season when we are congratulating ourselves for our
successful material gains and our fancy homes. The humble sukkah reminds us:
Everything you eat and everything you own comes from Hashem.
What is the Value of the Sukkah?
The Talmud (Avoda Zara 3a) relates that in the future, when
the nations of the world will complain about the preferred status enjoyed by
the Jews, G-d will explain that the Jews are the “Chosen People,” because they
alone are the “choosing people,” so to speak; we alone accepted the burden of
the commandments, and chose to follow G-d’s law.
The nations will then plead, ‘Offer us the Torah anew and we
will follow it.’
‘You foolish people,’ God will answer, ‘he who prepares on Erev
Shabbat can eat on Shabbat, but he who made no preparations, what can he eat?
Nevertheless, I have an easy commandment called sukkah, go and fulfill
it….’
Why is it called an easy commandment? Because it has no
expense.
Immediately they will build a sukkah on their roof but then
G-d will cause the sun to blaze as if it were the hottest day of the year. They
will then kick each sukkah, and leave…
G-d will laugh, as it is said (Tehillim 2:4),
He Who dwells in Heaven laughs; the Lord mocks them.
יוֹשֵׁב בַּשָּׁמַיִם יִשְׂחָק אֲדֹנָי יִלְעַג לָמוֹ
(Talmud Bavli, Avoda
Zara 3a)
The belief that G-d will reward us for the observance of the
mitzvot is one of the central principles of Judaism. Reward, however, is only secondary to the
ultimate purpose of the mitzvot –to connect us with Hashem.
This explains why the manner in which we leave the Sukkah
when we are pattur is a test to our devotion to Hashem. The Talmud notes
that a Jew, too, is exempt from remaining in the Sukkah if he is uncomfortable,
but he still does not demean the Sukkah. Why is that difference so significant?
The Rem”a (Orach Chaim 639:7) writes, ‘Anyone who is exempt
from sitting in the sukkah will not be especially rewarded if he remains in
it.’ Accordingly, the “scorching hot Sukkah” tests one’s response to losing the
opportunity of being rewarded for a mitzvah. Therein lies the difference
between the Jew and the gentile response.
For the gentile, once the heat renders sitting in the Sukkah
a “unprofitable” endeavor, the gentiles kick the Sukkah, considering it
worthless.
The Jew, however, does not see the Sukkah as worthless even
when he stands to receive no reward for sitting in it. Rather, we see the
Sukkah as a means to fulfill G-d’s will: to sit in it when Hashem so desires,
or not to, if Halacha should deem it unnecessary. The reward, them, is only
secondary, so its loss does not reduce the Sukkah’s value (http://www.atzmut.com/scorching-hot-sukkah-challenge/
).
How does the Sukkah Clarify our Outlook on Life?
The Chida, R' Chaim Yosef David Azulay writes that there is
significance to the juxtaposition of the High Holidays to Sukkot. During
Sukkot, we move to a temporary outdoor dwellings, and this move sends a message
to us. We have just celebrated the holidays of Rosh HaShana and Yom Kippur. On
these days, we have spoken about how spiritual matters should be primary in our
lives. We have dedicated ourselves to serving G-d instead of our passions. We
have asked forgiveness for our pursuit of earthly pleasures.
The Sukkah highlights what we have just experienced. It
reminds us that our life in this world is temporary, just as is our dwelling in
the Sukkah. Hashem gives us a booster shot so that after the serious times have
slipped away, the Sukkah reminds us still about our decision to pursue the
spiritual. When we sit in the Sukkah, we can strengthen our resolve in
spiritual areas and our connection with Hashem.
How is the Sukkah a Fresh Breath of Emunah and Bitochon?
The Rebbe of Slonim explains that the essence of the Sukkah
lies in the fact that the Jewish people abandon their place of residence and
seek shelter in a Holy refuge, in order to be alone with the Creator. We are
reminded that this entire world is, in fact, a temporary dwelling.. Chag Ha Sukkot
projects this very spirit of faith and trust in HaShem.
The Sefer Netivot Shalom further clarifies this by explaining
a very important concept about the Holy Ushpizin.
The seven Holy Ushpizin – guests (Avrohom, Yitzchok, Yaakov,
Moshe, Aharon, Yosef, Dovid do not come to visit us during Pesach, Shavuos or
Shabbos, they only come on Sukkot.
Why is that? Why this preference for Sukkot over any other
time?
Explains the Netivot Shalom that the truth of the matter is
that they reside in the upper realms of lofty spiritual worlds and, as such,
they are completely unable to descend into the lowly world in which we live. However,
all of this changes on Sukkot, for the Sukkah itself is NOT in this world, and
is rather a portal that transports us to the very realm where the Holy Ushpizin
reside. It elevates us above this world and helps us transcend into the
loftiest of planes. That’s the reason why they are able to visit us in our
Sukkah during Chag Ha Sukkot for we have
ascended to their level and not the other way around.
The entire
spirit of Chag HaSukkot is to instill in us Emunah and Bitochon in Hashem.
Beyond Materialism
In our material-driven world we tend to forget just how
fleeting wealth and possessions are. The Rabbeinu Bechaye relates (Commentary
to Parshat Terumah) that there was a custom of Chasidei Tzorfat, the pious Jews
of France, to make their coffins out of the wood in their dining room
tables. This was done in order to show
that no matter the possessions one collects in the world, it is only the
mitzvot they performed at their table (hachnasat orchim, seudat shabbat, divrei
torah) that will come with them to the next world.
Perhaps this is the deep and profound message of Sukkot. As we begin our year anew after the Yomim
Noraim, we are reminded of this key theme of Judaism. There is more to life than a nice car, a nice
house, and even a nice sukkah. The
meaning cultivated in our lives by our loyalty to Hashem and that the Torah is
our sole possession. (http://www.ravtsvi.com/?p=48
)
Stepping out of the Rat Race
Every evening during Maariv we ask Hashem to:
“Spread upon us
your Sukkah of peace”
“ופרוס
עלינו סכת שלומך”
What is the relationship between the Sukkah and our Peace of mind?
We understand that the act of sitting (and even sleeping) in
a Sukkah evokes memories of Hashem’s miraculous preservation of the Jewish
people during their forty years of wandering in the desert following their
exodus from Egypt.
But how does such commemoration bring us to a deeper sense
of peace and tranquility?
Sitting in the Sukkah affords us the opportunity to take a
step back from the competitive rat race in which we live, and come to a fuller
and more accurate understanding of what this world is really all about. Never
has this been truer than in our times. Our world is that of Madison Avenue,
where the marketing of luxury products continues unabated, echoing one basic
message: Without this, your life is incomplete.
On Succot, we leave the comforts
of our materialistic existence behind and enter the simple Sukkah. The Sukkah
is the great equalizer. It is there that we turn our attention away from
materialistic pursuits and come to a deeper appreciation that Hashem runs the
world and that only He can and does provide for us, and that all efforts at
achieving materialism are fleeting and wasteful. In the words of, Shlomo
Hamelech (Kohelet 1:2):
“vanity of
vanities…all is vanity.”
הֲבֵל הֲבָלִים אָמַר קֹהֶלֶת הֲבֵל הֲבָלִים הַכֹּל הָבֶל
It is for this exact reason that we read these words on
Succot.
Says Rav Dessler (Michtav
M’Eliyahu, Vol. 1, pp. 106ff), this is how a Sukkah can bring a sense of peace.
Peace of mind can only exist when each person is satisfied with his lot, and
does not view others as being his personal competition. Once we have been
redirected away from our materialistic urges and our competitive sense has been
removed, can we relax in tranquility in the presence of Hashem.
How do we Show our True Desire to Enter the Sukkah?
The Slonimer Rebbe, in his work "Netivot
Shalom," tells of an errant prince who left the king's palace and
distanced himself for a while, and then decided to return. The king, of course,
was delighted, but always entertained the nagging thought that perhaps his son
returned out of fear of punishment and not out of true love – in which case, he
may leave again at any time.
His worries continued until the
day he noticed his son whistling and humming happily to himself as he went
about his daily chores. Now he knew the son was happy to be home and had
returned out of love.
We too, have spent more than a
month in a spirit of repentance, returning to God, changing our faulty traits
and reviewing our past mistakes. But were we perhaps motivated by the fear of
being sealed in the "Book of Death" or of being given a less than
sweet year? When we engage in the mitzvot of Sukkah, busily decorating and
shopping, happily searching for the finest "Arbah Minim," we show G-d
and ourselves that we have returned to Him out of love, that we truly desire a relationship
with Him and we won't leave again.
Sukkot is a time when we
solidify through action all the theoretical commitments and resolutions we took
upon ourselves from early in Tishrei the "days of awe."
Conclusion
Harvest time was one season that permitted farmers to feel wealthy,
when the granaries were full, tables were laden and food was abundant. Perhaps
precisely then, we might mistake our money for our life. So that is when G-d
decreed that we observe Sukkot, to leave the comfort of our homes, the luxury
of our dwellings, the attachment to our ‘stuff’ in exchange for closeness with
our family and nearness to Hashem.
In a sense, Sukkot itself is
about getting our priorities straight. Here we just finished with the Yomei
HaDin, hopefully with Hashem’s blessings for a year of prosperity and success.
Yet the first thing we do with our new-found blessings is to leave our
comfortable homes for the temporary shade of the Sukkah.
That is why Sukkot is the holiday that can speak most
powerfully to our generation. We, as perhaps never before in history, are
blessed with an abundant harvest of material advantage. And we need to reflect
on our priorities
For many of us, busyness is our way of being us. Maybe, we
have all have a bit of Charlie Ravioli inside.
So on this Sukkot, the Festival of the Harvest, when we
leave our homes and our attachment to the material to sit with our loved ones
under the heavens, we can sanctify and use our powers and desires to grow and
become closer to our Creator. We can bask in His love and protection, and trust
that He takes care of all our needs and show Him how happy we are to be home. (http://www.aish.com/h/su/tai/48957181.html).
Now we can take out our own imaginary phones, and make one
more call. “Hello? Charlie Ravioli? I’ll meet you in the Sukkah!”
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